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Husband not working
Q: O Shaykh, a sister has written a question and ask that we ask you for an answer. 
The question: “My husband is a well known caller to Islam in the United States. We have been married for *** (removed). We have *** children. The issue is is that my husband spends a lot of time away from our home giving dawah and teaching Islam to people but he hasn’t worked in several years. I have been forced to receive aid from the government (welfare) to support my family so that my children and I can have food and have a home. When I speak to my husband about him getting a job he says that the welfare is sufficient and that if it is difficult I should get a job because he has to give dawah and teach the people. Is this correct?”
Answer: 
May Allah aid our sister and give her comfort and ease. Amin. The husband’s understanding of the obligation to give dawah is not correct. Dawah is an obligation. However, our individual obligation for dawah is to ourselves and our families first. “O you who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones” (Quran 66:6)
The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasalam) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is the shepherd of his people and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock” to the end of it” (Sahihain).
And a person will be questioned about those who was entrusted to his care, The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasalam) said “Allah will ask every shepherd about that which was entrusted to his care, whether he took care of it or neglected it, and He will even ask a man about his family.” (saheeh by al-Albaani) It is a sin for a man to neglect those under his care. The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasalam) said “It is sufficient sin for a man to neglect those who are under his care.” (Abu Dawud) This includes his family. This includes his family. Clear?
A man has a responsibility to care for his family and he can not oppress them by denying his wife and children the rights Allah has given them. If a man “forces” his wife to work or to ask charitable organizations or government agencies to support her and his family and he is capable but unwilling to support her, this is tantamount to oppression and there is a legislated remedy for that.
He must fear Allah and care for his family. If he feels that he can not give dawah to others and also work to earn a means to care for his family then it is better that he work and support his family and give dawah to those of his household and leave off given dawah to the general people.
It is reported that Sufyān ath-Thawrī, if a man came to seek knowledge with him, would ask: “Do you have some way of sustaining yourself financially?” If he had enough to support himself, he would allow him to study. If he didn’t, he would have him go earn a living first.(‘al-Jāmi’ li Akhlāq ar-Rāwī wa Ādāb as-Sāmi’’)
This is important so that the students will not have to ask the people and he will keep his honor and respect deserving a student of knowledge (inaudible). How a person maintains his home is a means of dawah. If it is known that a man doesn’t care for his wife and children, who is going to accept dawah from such a man? 
The duty owed to one’s family is of great importance.

A Muslim is to live from his own earnings. Living on charity when one is able to earn a living is not appropriate for Muslim. Indeed the upper hand is better than the lower one. The Prophet said,( salallahu alayhi wasalam) “The upper hand is better than the lower hand. The upper hand is that of the giver and the lower is that of the beggar” and he, salallahu alayhi wasalam, said , “The upper hand is better than the lower hand. One should start giving first to his dependents. And the best object of charity is that which is given by a wealthy person. And whoever abstains from asking others for some financial help, Allah will give him and save him from asking others, Allah will make him self-sufficient.” (Bukhari)

And to those who live in the lands of disbelief, the Muslims should not give the disbelievers any ability to remind him of their favors upon him. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: ‘Nobody ever ate from any food better than that which he earned with his own hand. Dawud (Alaihi Salaam), the Prophet of Allah used to eat from the work of his hand. ‘ ( al-Bukhari)
Shaykh Tarheeb Ad-Dosri 

Umrah/2014
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