THE THREE FRIENDS
Shaykh Al-Allaamah Ibn Uthaymeen,

Rahimahullah, said:
“Friends are categorized into three classes:
The First: THE FRIEND OF BENEFIT 

He is the one who befriends you as long as he can benefit from you by way of wealth, status or other than that. If the benefit ceases, then he becomes your enemy as if he doesn’t know you and you do not know him. How numerous these types of friends are! How numerous they are who make accusations as it relates to the Sadaqah.
Allah ﻋﺰ ﻭ ﺟﻞ says in the Qur’aan:

ﻭَﻣِﻨْﻬُﻢ ﻣَّﻦ ﻳَﻠْﻤِﺰُﻙَ ﻓِﻲ ﺍﻟﺼَّﺪَﻗَﺎﺕِ ﻓَﺈِﻥْ ﺃُﻋْﻄُﻮﺍ ﻣِﻨْﻬَﺎ ﺭَﺿُﻮﺍ ﻭَﺇِﻥ ﻟَّﻢْ ﻳُﻌْﻄَﻮْﺍ ﻣِﻨْﻬَﺎ ﺇِﺫَﺍ ﻫُﻢْ ﻳَﺴْﺨَﻄُﻮﻥَ “

“And from them are some who accuse you (O Muhammad) in the matter of (the distribution of) the alms. If they are given part thereof, they are pleased, but if they are not given thereof, behold! They are annoyed!” {Surah Tawbah, Ayah 58}
He could be a close friend to you and you view him as the most honourable of the people and he views you the same. One day he asks you,

“Give me your book so that I may read it.” You say to him, “By Allah, I need the book tomorrow (so I can’t give it to you).” He becomes haughty towards you and displays enmity towards you. Is this a (true) friend? This is a friend of benefit!
The Second: THE FRIEND OF DELIGHT

Meaning, he only befriends you because he finds pleasure in speaking with you and associating with you and being with you. However he does not benefit from you nor do you benefit from him. Neither of you benefit the other. It is nothing except a waste of time. Regarding this one, you should also beware that he wastes your time!
The Third: THE FRIEND OF VIRTUE

He carries you towards that which beautifies (you) and prohibits you from that which disfigures. He opens for you the doors of good and directs you towards it. If you slip he corrects you in a manner that does not strip you of honour. This the friend of virtue!”

(Sharh Hilyah Taalib Al-‘Ilm Pg. 102)

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